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Roland Trujillo's Couples Compatibility Quiz
This quiz is for relationships where both partners are polite and respectful. If there is violence or abuse, get professional help immediately.
Please answer the following questions with yes or no. One point for each yes answer
1. We like the same movies. 1 point for yes
2. We like the same type of music. 1 point for yes
3. We met at school. 1 point for yes
4. We met at work. 1 point for yes
5. We met at a sports activity. 1 point for yes
6. We met at an organization to which we belong. 1 point for yes
7. We met at church. 1 point for yes
8, We both feel exactly the same about having kids. 1 point for yes
10. I can't wait until s/he gets home so we can talk. 1 point for yes
11. My partner understands me better than my best friend. 1 point for yes
12. We have at least one major goal for the future in common. 1 point for yes
13. We share several important goals for the future. 1 point for yes
14. I experienced a distressed state or a big set back and my partner stood by me.
15. My partner experienced a distressed state or a big set back and I stood by him or her.
16. We both belong to the same political party. 1 point for yes
17. We go to the same church or we feel the same way about church. 1 point for yes
18. We have already been through a lot together and our relationship is stronger. 1 point for yes
19. My partner is my best friend. 1 point for yes
20. We both have a good sense of humor . 1 point for yes
21. I can't imagine being with anyone else. 1 point for yes
22. We have a lot in common. 1 point for yes
23. I really respect my partner.1 point for yes
24. We make a great team.
25. My partner's strengths make up for my weaknesses and vice versa. 1 point for yes
each of the following questions is 5 points for a yes answer.
19. We are both forgiving. 5 points for yes
20. We both love children. 5 points for yes
21. We have opposite personalities in some ways. We balance each other. 5 points
Count up the points for each yes answer.
Write the score here _____________
Now add 1 point for every year you have been together __________
(example, 8 years equals 8 points)
Add up the two scores.
Write the answer here Answer A ______
example a score of 7 plus 19 years together = 26
____________________________
Now answer these questions
( 4 points each)
1.One or both of us get angry when we argue. 4 points
2. I would say my partner is rigid about some opinions.
3. We have differences about how to raise the kids. 4 points
4. We argue over money. 4 points
5. I don't like my partner's spending habits. 4 points
6. One of us smokes and the other does not. 4 points
7. One of us drinks and the other does not. 4 points
8. There are some things my partner does that irritate me. 4 points
9. One of us is ambitious and is a workaholic. 4 points
10. One of us has recently threatened to end the relationship. 4 points
11. My partner is sometimes inconsiderate. 4 points
12. One of us believes in God and the other does not. 4 points
13. One or both of us suppresses feelings when we argue. 4 points
14. My partner does not understand me. 4 points
15. My partner goes along with me but then sabotages things. 4 points for yes
16. My partner is moody.
17. My partner pretends to be something s/he is not. 4 points for yes
18. I sometimes lie to my partner about things. 4 points for yes
each of the following is 10 points for a yes answer
15. One or both of us have been unfaithful 10 points.
16. One of us gambles. 10 points
17. One of us drinks in excess sometimes or engages in recreational drug use 10 points
18. One of us wants kids and the other does not. 10 points
19. One of us has a short fuse 10 points
20. One of us is sort of angry all the time. 10 points
21. My partner belongs to what I would call a cult. 10 points
22. I think one of the groups my partner belongs to is strange or extreme. 10 points
21.My partner is always trying to change me. 10 points
22. One of us is extremely ambitious. 10 points
Count up the points for each yes answer.
Write the answer here. Answer B___________
Now subtract Answer B from Answer A
(example 26- 14 = 12)
(example 18 -30 = - 12)
Write the answer here _________
Now add 70
(example -12 plus 70 = 58)
(example 14 plus 70 = 84)
Final score A - B plus 70 = ____________
For example, if your first score was 12 and you have been together 40 years, that equals 52. Then subtract the second score, say 20, and the result ins 32. Add 70 and the total is 102 a marriage made in Heaven : )
If your first score was 12 and you have been together 5 years, that's 17. Then if the B questions add up to 21 then you subtract 21 from 17 and get minus 4. Subtract 4 from 70 and the final total is 66
99 plus You are fortunate to have each other
90 to 99 Wow. You guys are kindred spirits
80 to 89 Nice. Count your blessing.
70 to 79 If you are together for 10 years or less, you are actually doing really, really well
60 to 69 If you're just getting started (together for 5 years or less) you've got a couple of issues, but hopefully you'll get passed them.
50 to 59 Some issues here but it can work if you both work at it.
40 to 49 Could be tough. Caution if you are still dating Talk to a good marriage mentor.
less than 40 Think twice before you get too deeply into this relationship. If you are already long term, there are issues that need to be addressed. Infidelity, drugs, or alcohol are big red flags. Seek professional guidance.
This quiz is to get you thinking, organize your thoughts and feelings, and alert you to areas of concern. It's also a useful tool to take before you talk to Roland.You can tell him your score and what you would like some feedback on.
For many couples, perhaps most couples, it will show you that you two are doing well -- a little disagreement here or there is not worth throwing it all away.
Some of you will be delighted to see just how much you have in common, and it will help you to overlook some minor things and feel better about each other.
